Don't you ever get tired of the same old relationship advice? It's boring and most of the time doesn't even work! I've put together a list of the top 4 questions you should be asking your partner before taking the plunge and moving in together. Check it out!



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Hey everyone! It’s Jen The Therapist here today we’re going to be talking about the 4 MUST ASK QUESTIONS YOU WANT TO ASK YOUR PARTNER BEFORE MOVING IN WITH THEM. These are questions that you’re not going to find in any magazine or article online so you’re going to want to stay tuned because they are really important, but before we do that just hit the thumbs up or the like on this page because I want to make sure you have access to all of my future videos and tips.

Alright! So now we are going to get started. The very first question that you want to ask your partner before moving in together is how flexible is your partner and no, I do not mean the stretching kind. I mean how adaptable to change are they? You know, everyone has a certain amount of capacity for change and you’re bound to get into some difficult situations, especially when you move in together. People come from two different families and different ways of being and living, and so you want to make sure that you pick somebody who is capable of change. This is so that if you do disagree on something or you get into an argument you will be with someone who is more capable of working things out. If the person doesn’t have a huge capacity for change, (that’s okay too) you’ll want to ask yourself, how alike are we? Because if we’re really alike then maybe capacity for change isn’t that big of a deal, but if you’re really different then I think that’s an important thing that you want in a future partner.

So the second question that you want to make sure you ask before moving in is how do you deal with stressful situations? The reason why this question is super important is because you are going to encounter stress. Everyone does and we all handle it very differently. Some people go more inward towards themselves, they need time alone. Some other people, they don’t sleep, they stay up all night. Some people start arguments. Some people begin to chat a lot. So everyone is really different and it’s important for you to talk about that before hand so when you or your partner are in a really stressful situation you bring each other up instead of bringing each other down.

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Alright! So the third question you should be asking your partner is what do you want for your future? I know I said that this isn’t something you are going to find in a magazine article and that’s probably something you’ve heard before. But, it is a really important question because if you want different things then as much as moving in might be great for right now, it might not be great for the future. If that’s okay with you, then that’s awesome! But if it’s not then maybe it’s better to wait. Just so you can avoid any serious heartbreak.

And then the fourth and final question you want to ask your partner before moving in together is what kind of communication style do you have? This revisits questions one and two because you’re going to come across situations where you disagree, conversations where you might even get into arguments, and if you have the same kind of communication style( that obviously that would be best for difficult times.) However if you have different communication styles (which you probably do because that what most people have when they first get together) then that’s also okay. Learning how to compromise or to bend your style so that it fits your partners would be good because then any arguments you have would be better solved.

So thank you so much! That’s it for today. Again hit that like button and subscribe button and I will see you next week for more tips with Jen.

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