We are right. We may be dead right, as we speed along in our argument; but as far as changing another’s mind is concerned, we will probably be just as futile as if we were wrong.
Hello everyone. I hope you all are having a nice day.

Today I will tell you how to win an argument. We really want this skill in your skill set.
Let me tell you the only and the best of an argument- AVOID IT! Avoid it at all costs. Avoid it as you would avoid rattlesnakes and earthquakes.

Because the thing is- You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Okay, let me explain it to you. suppose you win over the other person and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is not of a composed mind.
Then what? You will feel fine. Actually, you will feel as if you are the greatest of all time. 

But what about the other person? You have made him inferior. You have hurt his/her pride. He/ she will resent your triumph. 

As they say- you may win an argument but you might lose a person.

So, if you argued, commented and contradicted, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s good will.

So figure it out for yourself- which would you rather have, an academic, theatrical victory or a person’s good will? Well, you can have them both.

Today I’m going to share with you 10 ways by which you can get the other person into your way of thinking without harming their own viewpoints.

So, Number 1 is – Welcome the disagreement: Always remember the slogan” when two partners always agree, one of them is not necessary” if there is some point you haven’t thought about, be thankful that it has been brought to your attention. Perhaps this disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake. And this is the first step towards avoiding it and not letting it come into existence.


Number 2nd is- Distrust your automatic reaction:  our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. At this stage, be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst, not your best.


Number 3 is Controlling your temper: remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.


Number 4 is to Listen First. Give the opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t build higher barriers of misunderstanding.


Number 5 is looking for the areas of agreement. When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas on which you agree.

Number 6 is to be honest- look for the areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.

 Number 7 is promising yourself to think over your opponents ideas and study them carefully. And mean it. Your opponents may be right. It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and find yourself in a position where your opponents can say: “we tried to tell you, but you wouldn’t listen”

 Number 8 is to thank your opponents sincerely for their interest- anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested in the same things you are.

Number 9 s thinking of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.

And lastly number 10 is postponing your action to give both sides time to think through the problem. This can be done by holding meeting later that day or the next day, when all the facts may be brought to bear.

So, we discussed how an argument can be won and the best way is to avoid it and if it was sure to occur what all measures you can take to conduct a healthy argument by which not only you will have victory but your opponents respect.

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