Midlife crisis and divorce are often misunderstood. A midlife crisis does NOT mean a divorce is inevitable, but if you make these common mistakes, you can add fuel to the fire and prolong the crisis. Whether your wife in midlife crisis wants a divorce or your husband is experiencing a mental breakdown, learn the little-known cause of a midlife as a first step toward dealing with the crisis and learning how to cope during this difficult time. You might not realize this, but you have more influence over your spouse’s midlife crisis than you think!

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What you need to know about midlife crisis and divorce

Are you worried it’s too late to save your marriage? You've left the land of logical thinking and entered the land of blaming, accusations, emotional and physical chaos. What if you could minimize the chaos and avoid pushing your spouse away even after a divorce has been filed?

Today I'll help you understand how midlife crisis impacts marriage and divorce. This also applies to couples in long-term relationships.

To you, divorce may not be an option because divorce destroys children’s stability, financial assets, community life and everything that matters. But to a person in a midlife crisis, they see divorce as happiness – the light at the end of a very dark tunnel. They see YOU as the cause of their pain. But little-known truth is, their pain is NOT outside, it is coming from inside. Their own childhood messages of abandonment, abuse or neglect from their first 10 years is the source of why they are suffering. But a person in midlife crisis does not realize this and cannot learn it.

Consider how much abandonment, abuse and neglect your spouse received during their first 10 years of life. The more stories you have of that treatment, the more likely divorce will be in your marriage.

Midlife crisis and divorce are driven by childhood trauma. Childhood trauma is an energy and thought problem, not a behavior problem. It’s important for you to realize that your own internal energy gives off a vibration that is immediately picked up and reacted to by your midlife crisis spouse. For example, it’s very common for you to feel fear, anxiety, worry, self-doubt and resentment right now. You might be wondering… who is he talking to? What is she wearing? Where is he going? Did she really never love me? The anxiety and self-doubt is written all over you whether you realize it or not. Even as you attempt to hide those dark feelings from your spouse, as long as they exist, the vibration or unspoken feelings come out of you and put pressure on your spouse. Suddenly, your own energy literally becomes the fuel for the midlife crisis fire. The more you feel these emotions and give off these energies, the worse the midlife crisis symptoms become.

I teach these ideas through my Environment Changer course to men and women whose spouse has entered a midlife crisis. The reason I call it an environment changer is because you are changing your own internal inner environment. That is the first change that has to take place before anything can change on the outside. It’s not about behavior – changing what you do and say. What matters is what you think, what you feel and what you imagine. If you have no control over your internal condition, you will you lose any chance to influence your midlife crisis spouse.

To avoid putting pressure on your spouse, hold off on behavior based actions. Things like buying flowers, sending cards or gifts, heartfelt letters, involving others in your marriage, sharing self-help resources and saying I love you will backfire. These actions add fuel to the fire because your partner sees it as your way of trying to fix things in a superficial way – only as a reaction to the threat of divorce. “Don’t bother, why didn’t you do this years ago?” is a common reaction.

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