Originally posted: 6/25/2022
“Actually” Can turn any compliment into an insult. It’s like magic.

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Did you paint this?

Yeah. Yeah, I did.

It's actually really good.

What do you mean?

I mean it's a good painting.

Then why didn't you say that?

I did say that.

No, you said it's actually really good, which makes it sound like you're surprised that it's good. It makes it sound like you're the arbiter of quality and you're amazed I lived up to your standards. It's kind of pompous.

I sound pompous? You're the one who just said arbiter.

Okay, fine. But do you see what I'm trying to say?

Yeah, it's actually a pretty good point.

Really?

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