Are you your own biggest enemy?
We sabotage ourselves because we don’t want to change our identity!
What is our identity?
We regulate the external circumstances to align with our identity.
This means regardless of how many chances we get to become rich we reject that with our Identity…
For instance, because we are not rich, and we don’t want to change our identity to become wealthy.
The same goes on with our relationships, happiness, finances, success, physical body…
Our identity is comparable to the thermostat setting from an AC.
For instance, If our success increases heavenly we adjust it to be lower and then blemish the circumstances for it.
What is unfamiliar to us threatens us… and so we cool down our success.
We chose our friends to have the same thermostat setting as us … and so we can’t grow.
When I studied, I saw my friends were not successful and funny. Then I wanted to be successful, automatically I changed them to successful students.
We need friends that have already done what we want to get the same if we do the same…
Because such friends are motivating…
Proximity is influence.
Faith, association, Intention… to get what you want.
We need that faith and with intention, we drive forward and our associations support us.
What is familiar is easy…
We move toward what is familiar and don’t like to do what is not under control.
Maybe you self-sabotage yourself because you can forecast your future, everything looks to be under your control.
We don’t like to go towards the unfamiliar.
7 symptoms of self-sabotage
1. If you look back towards your past a lot, instead of focusing forward on the future, you repeat your past… Stop focusing on the past -Then you get more of what you don’t want.
2. If You focus on what you don’t have so you get more of that… people who focus on the lack of things, they get exactly that. If you focus not getting enough love in your relationship instead of focusing on giving more love, then you getting lesser and lesser love.
3. Don’t compare yourself to other people, their social media presents, or the mask that they wear … All is a lie… They show only what is positive in their life, all the sorrow, and suffering they skip. Imagine a family is deep in stress, with yelling, shouting, crying, and then a friend comes I want to take a photo from you… In a moment the entire scene changes and they play the happy lovely family. Actually, it works!
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Don't compare your life to another time in your life/ relationship … That is not fair.
You will sabotage your success, happiness, your relationship,
4. Don’t focus on what you can’t control instead focus on the things that you can control...
Most of the things/circumstances/people we can’t control so we focus on our actions and what we can do.
The media is constantly feeding us what we can’t control, so we become helpless, frustrated…
Don’t try to control what you can’t control, maybe you can influence it that is all. Otherwise, you sabotage your life
5. Don’t Discourage yourself otherwise you sabotage your life… When other people discourage you, that is their opinion… Say, thank you for sharing your opinion…
Discourage means a lack of courage.
Feel your fear and do it regardless of and move forward.
6. Don’t get distracted by social media, media, what other people are doing, by habits that they don’t have… make a list of what distracts you and illuminate them or reduce them.
7. When you stop or reduce doing what gave you the success, the relationship, the happiness… instead of more of that You stop your progress…
You sabotage yourself.
What are the people you are around?
Look at the last 90 days of your friends when you have been together with them…
Look at the conversations with them…
Were the conversations about things that they could not control, about news in the world or did they support you, motivate you, lovely… did they distract you?
Did they talk a lot about the past or did they support you for the future?
They should focus on the present.
So you are not happy where you are and still should accept yourself.
I want my friends not happy with where I am right now but they should have expectations of where I am going…
I want friends who could see me where I could be and they should support my goals.
You have everything right now that you need and you belong to your dreams…
If you stop sabotaging yourself, your body, emotions you gone be there…
