The avoidant attachment has a tendency to create a push-pull dynamic.
And this dynamic is reflective of the inner conflict they experience.
On one hand they want a relationship but on another hand relationships are also their greatest source of pain.
So they live in a state of ‘not sure’.
If they like you, they’ll do what they can to pull you close.
But the moment you get too close and require a deeper commitment or sense of intimacy from them, they get scared and unconsciously push you away.
This pattern will continue to play out for them until they’re aware of it and then have the courage to do something about it.
Understanding them will give you clarity as to why they act in this way..
And understanding is the gateway to a healthy relationship 🙏🏻
