You mentioned that you had 2 previous miscarriages. I'm so sorry to hear that. I sincerely hope the best for you in the future going forth. You asked some questions about why this might be happening. I do recommend talking with your doctor, because the chance of a woman having 1 miscarriage is actually a lot higher than most people think. It's about 15-20%. Most of them happen early on before a woman knows she's pregnant. But many are recognized, and the woman knows she had a miscarriage, and it's a really hard, unfortunate thing to go through, and that's just going through it once. When you've gone through it more than once, it's even more heartbreaking. It causes you to lose hope for the future.
But what I want you to understand is that there is hope for the future. Your chance of having a 2nd miscarriage following a 1st is still not super high. Your chance of a miscarriage on the 1st is about 15%, a chance of miscarriage on your 2nd pregnancy is still only 15%, but after having 2 consecutive miscarriages, your chance of having another miscarriage is higher. So it would be best to talk with your doctor, who can look into it and decide if there's some reason behind this that can be managed, so that you can have a successful, full-term, healthy pregnancy. I want you to know that many women who have had recurrent pregnancy losses do go on to have children of their own.
There are a few different things that your doctor will consider when you go in for an evaluation. One is chromosomal abnormalities. There are times when a mother and a father get together and try to have a baby, and they don't know that their genes don't mix well until they try to have children, and then they discover that there are certain genes that they're passing along that are causing the woman to miscarry frequently. Other things the doctor will consider are thyroid problems, hormone problems, blood clotting issues, diabetes, autoimmune disorders - that's where the woman's disease-fighting armies actually attack healthy tissue instead of infection - that can cause issues. Uterine abnormalities can also contribute to the issue of recurring pregnancy loss. So after performing an exam, which might include blood work, a pelvic exam, possibly ultrasounds or CT scans, the doctor will combine all of this information together and decide what the best plan of action would be for you going forward. Of course, the treatment is going to depend on their diagnosis.
I really hope that you're pregnant again soon. When you do get pregnant, your pregnancy will be considered high-risk. I recommend choosing an obstetrician. You have a lot of different options for providers when you're pregnant, but an obstetrician is a specialist at pregnancy, and they're capable of handling high-risk situations. So I recommend seeing one of them, making sure you seek early prenatal care. Based on their knowledge of the situation, they'll watch you closely and decide if further investigation or treatments are necessary along the way. They may also involve a perinatologist, which is a specialist above and beyond obstetricians. They frequently consult with them when someone is high-risk, and they help to monitor the patient more closely. All of this is in an effort to achieve good outcomes.
Everything physical aside, I just want to spend a moment talking about how you're feeling emotionally. When you experience pregnancy loss, you need to allow yourself to go through all the stages of grieving. At first, you're in denial, and then you might be really mad and angry about it, you might try to bargain, you might feel sad, maybe feel like you're responsible, or some people try to bargain with God. These are all normal steps, and after that, you may still feel depressed. You need to allow yourself to go through all of these different stages. If you don't, then you'll get stuck in one of them, and it's going to be really hard for you to accept the fact that you've miscarried and allow yourself to move on. It's normal for people to become bitter if they don't allow themselves to grieve, so make sure you allow yourself to go through this process. Turn to family and friends that will be supportive. There are even support groups for women who have had pregnancy loss, and you can ask your doctor about resources that they might know of in your community.
If you feel like you're struggling with feelings of sadness that are above and beyond what you would expect to be normal for your situation, or if they're affecting your ability to function each day, be sure to talk with your doctor, and they'll help you sort through your feelings and decide if treatments are necessary. Sometimes professional counseling is warranted, and it does wonders for women who have struggled with pregnancy loss. I sincerely hope the best for you going forward. If you have more questions for me along the way, please don't hesitate to ask them on our Facebook page at [ Ссылка ].
