Can you get better at deciding who you should and shouldn't trust? The answer is most likely yes. This video describes the importance and inherent riskiness of trusting other people. It presents 9 tools for deciding whether or not you should trust someone which, when used in combination, may help you to better assess the potential costs and benefits of trusting others.

This is a follow-up to my earlier video "Why Do I Trust People?" which describes an evidence based psychological model of how interpersonal trust works: [ Ссылка ].

Here is the video about trust and narcissism by @Prof. Sam Vaknin that I reference in this video: [ Ссылка ]
(Note: There is a full citation of Vaknin's video in the references below.)

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Chapters:
00:00 What is behind our biggest disagreements? Trust issues, at least in part
01:17 Deception is common, so we need to learn how to trust effectively
01:40 My previous video describes how trust works (CARD)
02:10 I recommend combining the tools mentioned here
03:00 I'm Andrew and this is Sense of Mind. Check out my other videos!
03:49 Tool 1: Can you ask questions? (dogma)
05:43 Unquestionable dogma is untrustworthy
07:30 Can you ask questions without ostracism?
08:12 Tool 2: Do words match actions? (gaslighting)
09:25 Signs you are being gaslighted
10:32 Asche Conformity Experiments
11:57 Political Gaslighting (CARD)
15:24 Tool 3: How do they respond to feedback?
16:50 Imagine if negative results didn't have an effect
18:08 We are (almost) never fully isolated in trust situations.
19:42 Tool 4: Kindness and Guilt-Proneness - predictors of trust
20:30 Unconditional Kindness
21:36 Guilt-proneness
23:00 Tool 5: Reciprocity ≠ Trustworthiness
24:30 Reciprocity is context-dependent
24:55 Tool 6: Do (Their) Cost-Benefit Analysis
28:22 Tool 7: Beware your cognitive biases
28:59 Sam Vaknin's list of trust-relevant cognitive biases
30:55 Tool 8: Test Trust (not deliberately!)
32:10 Betrayal is a part of life
33:17 Tool 9: Learn to forgive, despite the pain of betrayal
35:32 Thank you for watching! Please like and subscribe!

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Sources and Recommended Readings:

Thielmann, I., & Hilbig, B. E. (2015). Trust: An integrative review from a person–situation perspective. Review of General Psychology, 19(3), 249-277.

Thielmann, I., & Hilbig, B. E. (2015). The traits one can trust: Dissecting reciprocity and kindness as determinants of trustworthy behavior. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 41(11), 1523-1536.

Levine, E. E., Bitterly, T. B., Cohen, T. R., & Schweitzer, M. E. (2018). Who is trustworthy? Predicting trustworthy intentions and behavior. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(3), 468.

Stern, R. (2018, December 19). I've counseled hundreds of victims of gaslighting. here's how to spot if you're being gaslighted. Vox. Retrieved October 28, 2021, from [ Ссылка ].

Vaknin, S. (2020). After the Narcissist: Learn to Trust Again! (Bonus: Rant). Prof. Sam Vaknin - YouTube Channel. Retrieved from [ Ссылка ].

Information on Asch Conformity Experiments: [ Ссылка ]


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