I want to preface by saying, the reason most of us find ourselves in these types of relationships is due to past trauma. That trauma created beliefs about who we are, what we deserve and how we should be loved. These ideas about ourselves create the lens we use to navigate relationships.

So, holding firm boundaries is again, just the tip of the iceberg. You have to dive deep into why you are in a relationship where someone is condescending to you and do you want to be in that type of relationship. Perhaps the “good” outweighs the “bad”, that is for you to decide but it still bears the question, why are you allowing someone to speak to you like that?

We practice sovereignty, always, but we have to simultaneously dive deep into the beliefs that lead us to the relationship otherwise we will find ourselves in similar relationships regardless of whether we put up firm boundaries and practiced sovereignty.

It’s both, diving deep into you and practicing sovereignty.

The greatest gift however is the awareness of what you are in and beginning to ask yourself in you want to be in it?

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