One of your most asked questions is, “how do I stop being a people-pleaser?” Our answer is to begin by setting boundaries, to begin by saying “no.”
We want to be clear here. Saying “no” isn’t about refusing to serve others. It’s about reclaiming the time and energy you need in order to do some personal work. Our past experiences and trauma is what compels us to people-please in the first place. For a people-pleaser, our value and self-worth is tied to the attention and praise of others.
With your time and energy freed, you can go about identifying and resolving that trauma. You can work toward building your value and self-worth that’s independent of anyone else. From that place, you’ll no longer feel compelled to please others. Instead, you’ll choose to serve others after having served yourself.
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