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If your ex said you are not compatible, it can certainly feel hopeless, but you have to look at what is really going on.

Is it true that you have no hope of getting your ex back?

In my experience, helping countless people since 2009, no.

When your ex says that you are not compatible.It means that they do not believe that the two of you share common values and visions for your life together.

If this is true, then maybe the two of you are actually not compatible at this moment in time. However, an event such as a breakup can be something that causes us to stop and reflect on the choices that we have been making.

And if it’s true that you and your ex have different values, and you aren’t liking the path that your current values are taking you down… and you think that if you had values similar to the ones your ex has, then maybe… just maybe, you might be able to shift your values to those that your ex has, and if you can show your ex that you actually do have the same values that they have, then you can show them that getting back together with you is exactly what they want to do.

Now, the key here is to demonstrate to your ex that the two of you have the same values. You wan to show them, not tell them that the two of you value the same things in life.

It’s easy to talk a good talk. But it’s difficult to really live by the words that you speak.

That’s why demonstrating your values is much more important.

Secondly, you also have have an enjoyable time together with your ex.

Your ex will never get back together with you, even if the two of you are compatible, if they don’t enjoy being with you.

So, you want to also focus on the quality of the emotional connection that you are sharing with your ex.

If interacting with you feels good and the two of you actually have similar values, then you stand a great chance of getting back together with your ex.

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