In healthy situations, you would never think that empathy and compassion could have downsides, right? When you're with a Hijackal, a narcissistic, or other endlessly difficult person, you can find that you've stepped over into some strange land where empathy and compassion cause you to suffer.
It's SO IMPORTANT to recognize when too much is too much and it's hurting you.

HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
Why too much empathy turns toxic and how
The toxicity of enabling
The problem of over-identifying with a Hijackal®
Losing yourself to meet the demands of a Hijackal
Reclaiming yourself after overgiving

You'll also benefit from the tips in this episode to help you keep your empathy and compassion in balance. Game-changer!

00:00 Recognizing healthy vs toxic empathy in relationships.
05:36 Holding toxic behavior accountable, not excusing it.
10:03 Unhealthy selflessness leads to emotional malnutrition.
15:10 Overempathizing leads to exhaustion and resentment.
20:20 Signs of toxic empathy and enabling behavior.
22:56 Toxic empathy can lead to health issues.
25:36 Daily balance in needs, wants, relationships is crucial.
31:15 PTSD from daily trauma, like 100,000 cuts.
34:43 Stand up for yourself without apology.


It's a slow slipping away into taking care of the Hijackal's emotional demands and ignoring your own needs. You can lose yourself...even, abandon yourself. Listen in and avoid that. If you feel like you have already lost yourself, know that you can certainly come back from it, stronger. It takes work, and may be the best work of your life.

* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.

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