If you find that you and your partner avoid hard conversations because they escalate quickly, are constantly walking on eggshells, or don’t feel seen, heard, or understood by each other…

There could be many reasons for this, but one of the best places to start is ensuring certain communication skills are in place.

It can feel impossible to share hard things when we feel dismissed, misunderstood, or as if they are constantly trying to fix it.

Learning how to help our partners feel seen and heard, is one of the most impactful things we can do for our relationships.

Try these 3 steps…

1. Gently reflect back in your own words what you heard your partner say. Ask if you understood them correctly… if not, ask for further clarification.
2. Provide validation by demonstrating empathy and understanding for their experience and emotions… even if you feel differently.
3. Explore by asking follow up questions to better understand their experience… and also ask what you can do to ensure they feel seen, safe, and supported.

Putting this all together might sound like:

“I’m hearing you say that you don’t feel like we are spending enough time together… it sounds like you are feeling hurt and disconnected… what are some things I can do to help you feel like a priority, so we can work towards reconnecting?” ♥️

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