The Narcissistic Friendship Rollercoaster: Idealize, Devalue, Discard


Friendships with narcissists often follow a predictable, emotionally draining cycle. Here's a breakdown of the stages:

1. The Enchanting Idealization:

The narcissist makes a grand entrance. They shower you with compliments, mirroring your interests, and appearing deeply interested in you. You feel seen, understood, and drawn to their charisma. This "love bombing" phase creates a strong initial bond and fuels your desire for their approval.

2. The Shift: Devaluation Begins:

Subtle changes emerge. The narcissist becomes increasingly critical, diminishing your achievements or making backhanded compliments. They may start needing constant attention or neglecting your needs. You might downplay these signs, attributing them to occasional bad moods.

3. The Tightening Grip:

The devaluation intensifies. The narcissist might become jealous of your successes, belittle your opinions, or gaslight you, making you question your own perceptions. They exploit your vulnerabilities, creating a dynamic where you constantly strive for their validation.

4. The Triangulation Game:

To maintain control, the narcissist might introduce new "friends" or reignite past conflicts with existing friendships. They thrive on drama and chaos, keeping you off-balance and questioning your relationships.

5. The Discard (or The Silent Treatment):

When you no longer provide enough admiration or if a new "shiny object" catches their eye, the narcissist may abruptly discard you. This can happen through a cruel confrontation, a silent treatment, or even disappearing from your life altogether.


Breaking Free:

Recognizing this cycle is crucial. You deserve a healthy friendship built on mutual respect and genuine care. If you find yourself in such a dynamic, consider setting boundaries, prioritizing your well-being, and seeking support from healthy relationships. #everyone #fypシ゚viral #narcissism #friendship #cycle #narcissisticfrendship

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