This one honestly doesn’t need much more than was already said. We can’t place our hopes on someone changing or being someone they’re not. Yet all too often, this is exactly what we see.
Family saying, “if you would just…”
Couples saying, “I’d be happy, if you could just…”
People do indeed change, but not becasue we want them to, and not on our timeline. A person changes when they themselves have a shift in beliefs and values. You trying to force that shift is a sure fire way to lead to resentment on both sides of the equation.
On top of that, like my friend Amanda said, “you might love everything about Starbucks, but you'd still be an idiot if you go there expecting a good massage.”
#relationships #mentalhealth #communication
