What are the signs your boyfriend is controlling you?

He wants to know where you are, what you are doing and where you are going.

To a degree, that’s love and concern.

To too great a degree, it is controlling. And any guy who doesn’t want you doing too much without him is controlling.

I’ve heard that after the first few weeks, a guy constantly texting you is controlling.

Then most young women are too controlling because they can’t even go to the bathroom without their phones, asking people what they are doing.

I know controlling is if he hits you.

Yes. But controlling starts with emotional degradation first, such as making her feel bad while building himself up.

That’s the guy who makes you clean up a room perfectly or gets mad that dinner isn’t perfect.

He’ll do that to degrade you, so you’ll be more willing to be dependant on him.

So a guy who constantly degrades you is controlling you.

Or trying to. Another sign is that he’s isolating you, to make it easier to control you.

It would be a sure sign if he locked me in a room without my cell phone.

I remember that woman who was locked in a room after being beaten up and tried to send the image via cell phone but at least blue tooth picked it up.

Is a guy telling me not to use my phone controlling?

Only if he still gets to use his just as much. But a guy who tells you to stop talking to friends might be controlling.

He might be afraid I’m going to run off with someone else or bad mouth him with the girls.

You might, but a guy who says don’t talk to anyone but me, don’t spend time with anyone but me, don’t contact anyone but me is controlling.

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