The inner critic. Sigh. For many of us it is a daily struggle to overcome the very loud and very nasty voice inside our head that says things like "You not good enough", "you will never make it", "people will reject you" and the list goes on. In this video, I give you my inspired tips to changing your inner critic into your best friend!
Imagine how nice it would be to hear how AMAZING you are everyday? Many of us are quick to love and complement others and yet we reserve the harshest(most insensitive) criticism for ourselves! This is not healthy - studies show that having a negative self-image (narrated by a negative inner voice) makes you sick AND it is addictive!
This is why it becomes a habit to sit and dwell on our problems without ever making any changes. Just think about the times you feel the most down and out, do you ever feel like sending any warm and fuzzy feelings to yourself? Never! And this is because your brain becomes addicted to the rush of stress hormones you get whenever you complain or feel depressed. This is also why we tend to avoid other people that may have something positive or kind to say to us - we don't want to hear it - we just want to wallow in our sorrow/anger.
It is at this very low point that we HAVE TO...like ourselves. I'm not kidding, this simple affirmation "I like myself" is the hardest thing to say when we feel low and yet, it is 100% effective in changing your frame of mind. I've heard people say that being positive is not enough, well, being negative never helps - so you might as well try something new.
Also, be mindful of the types of questions you ask yourself. The popular one - "Why me?" is especially problematic as the brain always tries to answer you. So if you ask "Why am I so lazy/greedy/stupid?", your brain will go into the recesses of your mind and find a time when your behaviour was not your best and this will simply reinforce to you that you are as bad as you feel. Solution? Ask better questions!
Considering the questions above, change it to "How can I be more productive?" or "How can I eat more nutritional food which makes me feel satiated?" or "How can I improve?" See the difference? We need to ask better questions in order to get better results.
Another key strategy is to critique the critic. Byron Katie provides an amazing 4 point question when dealing with our regrets and suffering. She gives you the tools to work through your own negative self talk and find inner peace - and it is lovely I can tell you that.
Below is a link to her resources which she makes FREELY available - for your mental health:
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You can also get the low down on the inner critic with one of my fave personal development mentors - Marisa Peer. She explains in easy to understand language and her work has truly changed my life!
You can silence your inner critic - Marisa Peer
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I truly hope this video brings you closer to achieving the type of peace and ease of mind which is possible for all of us, we just have to be willing to take a chance on ourselves.
Please let me know if this video resonates with you. Like, share, subscribe and lets keep on growing our community of healthy, happy and transformed beings!
Much love,
A
