Last week I posted an article about how to stop your child from throwing tantrums and/or crying, simply by teaching them how to breath and calm themselves down.

I got a lot of feedback, both good and bad and many were in disbelief about it. Before I continue, I want to aknowledge that yes, all children are different and there's no cookie cutter solution to everything. That said, I strongly believe that learning to understand, connect and process your emotions rather than freaking out, is beneficial regardless of who you are and how old you are.

Since a few days back, Ean has been getting increasingly ill. He didn't sleep well during the nights and was generally congested, uncomfortable and wanted nothing but mommy and boobs. Which was fine, during the weekend. Today he was feeling particularly vulnerable and didn't want to let mommy go to work and ultimately started to cry. I'll let the video speak for itself.

Did you watch it? Okay, let's talk about what happened.

Ean was with his mother in the living room and as she started to get dressed to go to work he refused to let her go and started to cry, to the point of coughing and gagging (congestion and all that from the sickness). I was in the kitchen and came to intervene. As soon as I approach him, he knows what's going to happen and by now he is already starting to calm down by my relaxed demeanour and voice. I tell him to relax, breath and that mom has to go to work but that I'm not going anywhere and that we will play and have fun together.

I don't like to show Ean in a vulnerable situation like this online but I hope he understands when he's older, it's to help others. It's just human emotions that we all go through after all but for that reason I wanted to make the video as short and concise as possible. So basically what you're missing in the middle is some high octane cuddles, hugs and kisses. I cut to about 3-5 minutes later when we're saying goodbye and you can see he's like a completely different kid, even joking with his mom by teasing her when she's leaving and giggling as she walks away. Afterwards I promised him that we were going to pick up his mom from work and we continued the rest of the day in laughter and fun, and of course picked her up later in the afternoon and had a nice and playful walk home along the sea front together.

I have a rule to never, if possible, break a promise I make to him, regardless of how much or little I think he understands of it. Especially in vulnerable situations like this, in comfort, I think it's especially important to be real and I impose this on Ana as well, I hold her accountable for promises we make to him and make sure that we never try to bribe or trick him into doing things or stop doing things we want because of whatever small or lofty reward afterwards that I have no intention of keeping simply because I was too tired/lazy to deal with whatever he was complaining about. I digress, just wanted to give you that bonus advice as it was related to what transpired today.
I hope this was helpful and if you think someone you know would benefit from it... please share this post with them.

Oh and in case you missed the article I was referring to in the beginning, here's the link: [ Ссылка ]

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