To work through the 12 Steps with Dr. Doug Weiss in this series, purchase Beyond Love here: [ Ссылка ]
To watch the rest of the Partners of Sex Addicts steps in this series, check out the playlist here: [ Ссылка ]
Dr. Doug Weiss, national psychologist and author, has helped thousands of couples deal with sex addiction for over 30 years. Regardless of whether or not the sex addict works towards recovery, it is important that the partner receives healing . It may not be easy, but it is possible. However, it starts with doing the 12 Steps program.
The 12 Steps program has been around for several decades and has helped people in many different situations other than alcohol addiction. As the partner, you may not think you need to do this since you didn’t do anything wrong. However, you have gone through pain and even trauma. It’s best to be in a process to assist you on the road towards restoration. It’s the same as if you had been in a car crash. You may not have been the one driving, but you still have damage and need to recover from it. Whether you choose to commit to it or not, the choice is yours.
With Step One, it’s important for the partner to get a workbook and be in a supporting group. You are not alone. You can’t heal by yourself, but through opening your heart to others, receiving love, and having your questions answered can you truly move forward.
As hard as it can be, it’s important to admit that you’re powerless in this situation. While you do have power over you and your own life, you have no power over your significant other in the end. The choice to change or not to change is theirs alone. Their habits, addictions, and relationships aren’t something you can just manage or control. You can decide how you’ll respond to them, but you can’t decide what they have chosen to do.
Admitting that your life has become unmanageable regarding this area is critical. You can do what you can, working on your own pain and trauma, setting up boundaries, maturing in other areas, etc. But when it comes to others in your life, managing them isn’t really an option. If you focus all your efforts on trying to control what they do in their life, you can lose in your own life. You may not like it, but you can accept that it’s up to them to recover. If they choose help, that great, if not then, that’s on them. You may have to make some hard decisions, but you don’t have to be afraid of them, or force your spouse to be what you want.
You can come out stronger, taking charge of your own life. Following Step One, helps you stay in reality. It may hurt but it is necessary to realize and accept responsibility for what you need to do and not what they need to do. You can get better but the choice is yours.
We have many different resources available to you from DVDs and books to support groups and therapists.
For the book, Beyond Love: [ Ссылка ]
For the Married & Alone Step Book: [ Ссылка ]
For the Partners of Sex Addicts Facebook group for women, go to:
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For the Partners of Sex Addicts Facebook group for men, go to:
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For more information on Partner Betrayal Trauma®, go to [ Ссылка ]
For the book, Partner Betrayal Trauma, visit:
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For information on marriage counseling and intensives, go to [ Ссылка ]
For a full list of Dr. Doug’s products, go to [ Ссылка ]
Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.
You may contact Dr. Weiss via his website, [ Ссылка ] or on his Facebook [ Ссылка ]
by phone at 719-278-3708 or through email at heart2heart@xc.org
