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Looking to ask out that special guy? I’ll tell you how to approach him, what to say, and how to handle any difficulties that come up. Plus, stick around for the whole video because I’ll tell you what you need to do BEFORE asking him out that will increase the chance he says “yes” by a very wide margin.
Hi, I’m Lucy Goldman from LoveLearnings. I’m a relationship and dating coach as well as a commitment expert. I offer simple dating advice for women that’s backed up by science and research. If that sounds like something you can use, please hit the subscribe button below.
So how exactly can you ask a guy out? If you’re watching this video, I’m going to go ahead and assume that you don’t have a ton of experience in this arena. Maybe you’ve never asked a guy out before. Maybe you’d prefer to wait on him to ask you out but he’s not getting the memo. Or maybe this guy is just particularly difficult to pin down and you’re looking to make a date happen with him one way or the other. Whatever your situation, I’m here to help.
Let’s start from the beginning. Say you and this guy just met. You think that he’s pretty cute and you’re tired of waiting for guys to make the first move. You’ve decided to ask him out.
But before we even go into the situation. Before you introduce yourself or even catch his eye, you need to cultivate a very specific mindset that will help your chances. And that’s going to be tip # 1
1. Be prepared for rejection.
It may sound harsh but there is always a chance a guy will say no if you ask him out. This is something that you need to be prepared for.
I’ve known plenty of women who get completely down on themselves and depressed if they get turned down by a guy. Others who lash out and say something rude. Either way, not only will this make your potential date uncomfortable, it will make you feel disheartened, hurt, and unlikely to put yourself out there ever again.
The truth is rejection can actually make you a stronger, more confident woman if you look at it a certain way. It’s only by pushing ourselves, and getting out of our comfort zones that we will grow and develop as people. With that in mind, understand that his rejection doesn’t have any bearing on your own desirability. Maybe he already has a girlfriend. Maybe he’s not interested in dating right now. Or maybe he has one of a million other reasons to say no. Think of all the times you’ve said no when a guy asked you out. Did it mean that you thought he was unattractive or not worthy of your attention? No, you probably just had other things going on in your life that made dating less desirable than it is now.
Be secure in the knowledge that this guy doesn’t really know you. He missed his chance and he’s going to regret not getting to know you more. Keep this in mind going forward and you’ll have quite a bit more confidence and success.
Let’s take a step back and talk about something else you NEED to do before you ask out this guy if you want to increase your chances of getting him to say yes to the date. I know, it’s a lot of preparation but trust me when I say, it’s worth it and after this next tip we’ll get into the nitty gritty of exactly what to do and say. Here’s my next tip.
2. You need to build rapport with him
This is a fancy way of saying you need to talk to him, get into a conversation and maybe learn a thing or two about one another. This may seem obvious but you’d be surprised how many women will just ask a guy out before they even know his name. There are a few reasons why this doesn’t work out.
First, men aren’t used to being pursued by women in this way. Call it old fashioned but for many men, a woman who will ask out a guy based purely on looks can be a real turn off. The thinking goes “if she’s so desperate for a date, there must be something wrong with her. She must not have much to offer.” You may be saying “Good riddance. I wouldn’t want to go out with a guy who’s this shallow anyway.” But the fact is, this is all happening at a subconscious level. He may just experience a general sense of unease and be put off by your request. Even if it’s only subtle, it can be enough to make him back off and turn you down flat. If this happens, chances are you’ve missed your chance and he’s going to be lost to you forever.
You can avoid this simple mistake just by taking five minutes or so to make conversation with him and build rapport. Start by introducing yourself, making small talk, and trying to find common ground. Stay in the moment as much as possible. This means making eye contact, not checking your phone, and giving him your full attention. If you can keep him engaged, flirt with him, and make him laugh, even better.
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