Are you one of those people that have to please others? Or maybe you need everything to be perfect? In the school of psychotherapy called Transactional Analysis or TA we call these aspects of your personality “drivers”. In this video I’ll explore the 5 personality drivers, explain how they develop, why they hinder autonomy and how to step out of them.

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🔵 CHAPTERS

0:00 Be Perfect Driver
2:14 Please Others Driver
3:15 Try Hard Driver
4:26 Be Strong Driver
5:25 Hurry Up Driver

🔵 TRANSACTIONAL ANALYSIS BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS

I personally recommend the following Transactional Analysis books:

☐ TA Today by Ian Stewart and Vann Jones. Please click on the link to buy from Amazon: [ Ссылка ]
☐ Transactional Analysis 100 Key Points and Techniques by Mark Widdowson. Please click on the link to buy from Amazon: [ Ссылка ]
☐ Transactional Analysis for Depression by Mark Widdowson. Please click on the link to buy from Amazon: [ Ссылка ]

🔵 THE BE PERFECT DRIVER

Lucy is a chartered account, arrives to work early every day, is immaculately presented at all times and sets very hight standards for herself. As an accountant Lucy is in high demand as she has a reputation for producing accurate work, set to high standards and never misses a deadline. It sounds like the ‘be perfect’ driver is great but it’s not. Lucy is overly critical towards her co-workers, she is tense, exhausted and struggles with boundaries.

🔵 THE PLEASE OTHERS DRIVER

Mark manages a small care home for the elderly. Residents and staff think highly of him as he is very empathetic, tolerant and flexible. On his daily rounds of the care home he talks to all residents and staff to check they are happy and have no issues. On the down side Mark likes to gain the approval of others and doesn’t challenge anyone even if they break the care home rules. Mark never says ‘no’, allows people to interrupt him and lacks assertiveness. Mark’s please others driver is rooted in his early experiences.

🔵 THE TRY HARD DRIVER

Tracey is a school teacher, she is enthusiastic, gets involved in the after school activities and is the first to volunteer to run new projects. She is popular with her students and colleagues as she is always willing to help others. On the down side Tracey leaves work incomplete so she can move onto to another, more exciting project. Like all drivers, Tracey’s ‘try hard’ driver is rooted in her early experiences.

🔵 THE BE STRONG DRIVER

Kurt is a police officer and stays calm in situations such as road traffic accidents, arresting criminals and even working on murder cases. On the down side, Kurt really struggles with the emotional impact of policing but never asks for help. As a child he received the parental message ‘To be okay around here you have to be strong’. To break free of his be strong driver Kurt needs to remind himself, ‘It’s okay to show how I feel and be open about what I want’.

🔵 THE HURRY UP DRIVER

Christine is a project manager, she enjoys completing projects in the shortest possible time frame and seeks out the most efficient way to do work. She is know for being enthusiastic and action-oriented and often manages several different projects at a time. On the down side Christine is impatient, gets easily agitated and makes a lot of mistakes. To step out of the hurry up driver Christine needs to remind herself “I’m okay if I take my time’.

🔵 ABOUT TERESA LEWIS

Teresa Lewis is the founder and Director of Lewis Psychology and a Senior Accredited psychotherapist with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP Snr. Accred). Qualified in 1995, Teresa has been providing counselling and psychotherapy treatment for nearly 30 years. Teresa holds a masters degree in counselling and psychotherapy and is a qualified EMDR Practitioner having completed training accredited with EMDR Europe. Teresa is also a qualified adult educator and an accredited Mindfulness teacher As a recognised expert in her field Teresa is frequently asked to conduct editorial reviews and endorse counselling and psychotherapy books for international publishing houses.

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