Ann Leary author of I've Tried To Be Nice

In the podcast episode of "Moms Don't Have Time to Read Books" hosted by Zibby Owens with guest Ann Leary, they discuss Ann's book "I've Tried Being Nice: Essays." Ann talks about how this book represents her first foray into non-fiction, comprising essays that blend previously published pieces with new writings inspired by her old blog posts. The title essay, "I've Tried Being Nice," reflects on her personal experiences, such as disputes with neighbors, which illuminate broader themes of personal boundaries and assertiveness, especially as they relate to women's social roles.

The episode also touches on Ann's exploration of various personal experiences, from taking ballroom dancing lessons with her husband to the challenges of empty nesting, showcasing her journey of self-discovery and acceptance of not always being nice. Additionally, Ann shares insights into her transition from fiction to non-fiction, the therapeutic aspects of writing essays, and the process of embracing her authentic self through her writings.

Introduction to the Book and its Themes: Ann introduces her essay collection and discusses the shift from writing fiction to non-fiction.
Title Essay - "I've Tried Being Nice": Ann delves into the title essay, which deals with a personal anecdote about her neighbor's dogs and the broader implications of trying to maintain niceness in challenging situations.
Various Personal Essays:
Ann discusses essays about taking ballroom dancing lessons, navigating empty nesting, and reflecting on her childhood and upbringing.
Specific stories include a humorous dispute over tennis etiquette and personal revelations about setting boundaries.
Themes of Assertiveness and Personal Growth:
Ann explores the recurring theme of assertiveness versus niceness, particularly how women are often expected to maintain a pleasant demeanor.
She reflects on reaching a point in life where pleasing everyone is no longer a priority, and the freedom and challenges that come with that realization.
Writing Process and Transition from Fiction to Essays:
Ann talks about her approach to writing essays compared to fiction, including how her background in blogging influenced her non-fiction style.
She shares insights into the emotional and therapeutic aspects of writing about personal experiences.
Impact of Essays on Readers and Personal Reflection:
Discussion on how personal stories resonate with readers, providing comfort or validation through shared experiences.
Ann reflects on the impact of her essays on her own understanding of herself and her interactions with others.

On Personal Growth and Niceness:
"I've tried being nice, and the response from this woman, it was as if I had like pointed a gun, she was kind of staggered backwards, and she started, you know, panicking a little."
On Assertiveness:
"And I realized what a powerful thing it is to suddenly stand your ground."
On Writing Essays:
"I had fun writing the essays. And so I'm so glad that, um, that you liked them and that I'm hoping others will too."

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