This video answers the question: How can one spot vulnerable narcissistic abuse in a romantic relationship? I put together this video of ten signs of vulnerable narcissistic abuse. This applies to romantic relationships and with these particular ten signs, I looked at heterosexual romantic relationships not only in the scientific literature but in my clinical experience. I review the “dark cloud” theory of vulnerable narcissism.
There are two types of narcissism: grandiose and vulnerable. There are characteristics that we see across both types of narcissism that would be self-centeredness, a sense of entitlement, and a need for admiration. Specific to vulnerable narcissism, we see a low level of extraversion (somebody who has vulnerable narcissism tends to be introverted), high neuroticism, anxiety, depression, anger, resentfulness, distrustfulness, insecurity, feelings of shame, hypersensitivity to criticism, defensiveness, socially awkwardness, shyness, pessimism, being unforgiving, internalized anger, aggression, and jealousy.
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