Are you married to a quarrelsome wife? Paul explains in this video how to deal with this problem.

This guy dies and he's on his way to heaven and he sees two lines. One line, there's a sign that says "henpecked husbands form a line here" an old term I know but you can imagine what a henpecked husband means, and the other one says "non-henpecked husbands form line here."

Nobody's in that line so the guy says, "Hey, might as well." He goes up to the front of the line and St. Peter says, "What are you doing here?" And that guy says, "Hey, my wife told me to get into this line and that's where I'm going to stand." And so, men often go, "Why is my wife like this? What's going on?"

I don't know, but I do know this. It's okay. It's not okay if you take it on or if you react, then it's not okay. But it's okay because they are who they are, your wife is who she is whether it's a common character trait or an individual trait -- it doesn't make any difference.

It's your wife. You committed to love her, be supportive of her, take care of her and be there. You're not there to criticize her. When you actually are looking for this kind of video, you're
actually being critical of her. You're labeling her as a quarrelsome wife which is crazy.

There's an old saying you have a piano, it's got 88 keys. You don't throw it out because it's got one broken key. You'd work around it, you work around these things. Instead of working
on her being quarrelsome and here's what I want to share with you. You work on you being
even-minded. You recognize that when you're reacting to whatever you're getting from her
it's your reactions that you have control over.

You can't control her. You have free will, I'm not lecturing you, by the way, I just get excited about this because no one talks about this stuff. We have free will and we use it to choose between chocolate and vanilla ice cream. You use your free will to evolve yourself, to make yourself progress.

What does that mean?

You're design, you're a soul. You're meant to enjoy all the time, always happy regardless of the situation, to stand unshaken, amidst the crash of breaking worlds - that's it and you can do that but you can't do that by changing the world or by changing your wife. You could do it by changing yourself.

How do you do that?

I would say get one of my books. The books are great for marriage, you'll learn everything that you ever want to know about marriage in a lot more too but if you're serious about really wanting to improve yourself, and I hope you are even though that's not why you came here. Get the course for men, it's a phenomenal self-help path for you as an individual
so you can be happy.

You got married to be happy. You want to be happy every day your life. You want to be happier than you were the day before and that can be the case but not by changing your wife but by changing you. I hope this works out for you, I hope this works for you. I hope you understand this because it is not just like the ultimate way, it is the only way otherwise you'll be frustrated your entire life. Change yourself you change thousands. Try to change one you're going to go nuts - it's not going to work.

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