- Get your child of color around other people who look like them. It is important to THEM. If adoption is about love, what’s important to your child’s needs to be important to you. Listen up.

- Acknowledge that they are not white, verbally tell them that they are exactly what they are, Asian, Latino, black, mixed, and never say color doesn’t matter or you do not see color, saying this to a small child to them means you do not see them. Listen to adult transracial adoptees speaking up about this, it’s the same thing over and over.

- Be open minded, learn some new things. Just because it’s the “normal thing” to not see color does not mean it’s fulfilling your child’s needs. Learn everything you can about your child’s culture, history, language, foods, holidays, rituals, put things in your house that supports their culture and history, it would mean the world to them.

- If the first person of color, black, Asian, Latino… whatever is your child, and you have no other friends or people of color in your household or neighborhood, that is a huge red flag.

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