You want to believe that a Hijackal--a toxic, difficult, perhaps narcissistic person--loves you. You SO want to believe it. But it's time for a reality check.
Narcissistic folks don't have much love to give and here are 16 ways to recognize that they aren't giving it to you. An eye-opener!

People who love you listen to you. They want to listen to you. And, you want to listen to them. You're interested in each other. Not so with a #Hijackal. The Hijackal is interested in themselves and want you to be interested in them, too. Sure, in the beginning, it's different. That's how they hook you as I spoke about in the last episode, How Hijackals Hook You Into Toxic Relationships.
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HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- The transactional nature of toxic relationships
- 16 ways that love relationships differ from toxic relationships
- Why you must not continue to believe that you are loved and make excuses for poor behavior
- My definition of emotional abuse, and why you are best to keep it in mind
- Clear ways to recognize real love to compare and contrast with what a Hijackal offers you

03:05 Hijackals rush into relationships, prioritize things their way.
06:31 Deceptive person uses criticism to control others.
09:46 Love is about mutual understanding and respect.
14:16 Assess love through actions, not just words.
17:08 Enabling poor behavior in relationships lacks love.
20:22 Trust and love cannot be quantified numerically.
25:09 Hijackals seek control, not love or support.
27:08 Hijackals don't lead to love; lack intimacy.
34:39 Emotional and exhausting relationships are draining.
36:26 Romantic partners may emulate hijackal parents. Recognize.
41:14 Adult Hijackals believe they're perfect, but struggle inside.

Here are some other episodes you may find helpful right now:

Healthy Responses to Gaslighting:
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Actions Speak Louder than Words: How Narcissists Manipulate Your Emotions to Get What They Want (with guest Kim Saeed)
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Recognize Narcissistic Contempt: Nasty ways Hijackals Demean, Dismiss and Discount You
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* * Remember, narcissists and other toxic people come in all genders and ages * *
and toxic relationships can be at home, at work, at play... with your parent, boss, spouse, sibling, friend, co-worker.

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I am Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Are you in relationship with a Hijackal? That's someone who consistently puts you down, love-bombs and gaslights you, creates confusion and chaos, and causes you to second-guess yourself? I can help you recognize, understand, and make decisions about those kinds of narcissistic behavior…and especially, how to keep yourself (and your children) safe and sane.

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