Cuckolding is a sexual practice in which someone is aroused by the idea of watching or listening while their partner has sex with another person—and it’s a surprisingly popular sexual interest. In the survey of 4,175 Americans’ sexual fantasies I conducted for my book Tell Me What You Want, I found that 52% of heterosexual men and 66% of gay and bisexual men had fantasized about this before. In addition, 26% of heterosexual women and 42% of lesbian and bisexual women reported having had this fantasy at least once. So why is cuckolding so popular?

In this episode of the podcast, I spoke with sex therapist Dr. David Ley, who has literally written THE book on cuckolding, titled Insatiable Wives. He and I have also collaborated on a scientific study about cuckolding (co-authored with sex advice columnist Dan Savage), which was recently published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior.

We cover a lot of ground in this episode, including:

What does a typical cuckolding scenario look like?

What’s the difference between cuckolding and “hotwifing?”

Why are so many people drawn to cuckolding in the first place? Why do some find this idea incredibly erotic, whereas others find it to be threatening?

Why is there a political link to cuckolding—specifically, why do conservative men seem to fantasize about the idea more than their liberal counterparts?

What has research revealed about cuckolding in same-sex relationships?

Why is research on cuckolding so controversial?

What’s the future of cuckolding, especially as norms surrounding relationships and marriage continue to evolve?

To learn more about Dr. Ley’s work and writings, check out his website at davidleyphd.com

To catch up on previous episodes of the podcast, subscribe on Apple: [ Ссылка ]

Or listen online here: [ Ссылка ]

_____________________

To learn more about Dr. Lehmiller and follow his blog Sex & Psychology, visit: [ Ссылка ]

Check out Dr. Lehmiller's book, Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, which was just released in paperback edition: [ Ссылка ]

Or check out Tell Me What You Want on Amazon: [ Ссылка ]

_____________________
Credits:

Music - 123RF/timtaj

Book Cover Photos: Hachette Go, Rowman & Littlefield

Photo of David Ley: David Ley

свернуть