All of us go through in life disappointments small or big and I think all of us have experienced dejection in the process of being an adult. Failures are something which make us feel shameful, guilty, worthless. However we need to take the next perspective and pass it on to the next generation so that they don’t feel that a failure is to be avoided at all cost. There is a lot to learn from failure. Instead of looking at it as something unwanted, let us look at hoe to be or how not to be in future. Let us be a lesson for us rather than something shameful, painful etc. Nobody wants to be a failure. But it is inevitable that we will be facing some amount of disappointment in our not getting due credit in what we have done or being rejected in our relationships as well as in our work experiences. the smallest rejection, the smallest “ no” can trigger a tantrum in the child, can lead the teenager to run away from home, also we see in the extreme steps that many unfortunately take their own lives assuming that they are failures. Overanalysing a problem is more of a bane than a boon. To some extent we need to think and analyse the situation. However a lot of us spend unnecessarily in overanalyzing, overthinking or repetitively going through what is to be done to the point of futility. In such situations take a self help task to avoid people who are negative or people who are overly critical because this may feed into your over analytical nature. Keep a company of people who can give you positive feedback or constructive criticism rather than be very negative or add on to your dejection. Secondly don’t be a perfectionist. Rome wasn’t built in a day. There are no short cuts to success in life. Look at the larger picture. Don’t be overly critical of yourself. Have distractions. Don’t keep obsessively thinking about one thing. Have a lot of hobbies and improve your personality. No need for me to tell you the importance of exercise and a healthy diet to make you a fully functional person.
