We all have an inner critical voice to some degree, a voice that tells us how we are doing in life, with ourselves, with others, etc.
But for those with a CPTSD childhood, that inner and outer critical voice that we aim at ourselves and others can be quite brutal, unrelenting and even abusive.
The inner critical voice, when left untamed, will tell us that we are not good enough, no one else is good enough, and that we must try to be perfect at all times if we have any chance of being loved, being worthy or even being safe.
That voice also tells us that danger is around every corner, with everyone and everything, and we must be on guard and hyper-vigilant at all times, because the world is a dangerous place and so are all the people and things in it.
So, the combination of attempts at perfectionism, and the belief that we are always in danger on some level (emotionally, mentally or physically) keeps us from true, deep self love, connection with ourselves, and from experiencing a more positive, loving regard with others.
This video explores Pete Walker's concepts around the Inner and Outer Critic, and includes CPTSD related concepts around how our complicated childhoods allowed and demanded the inner critic to flourish and grow, but how it does not help us flourish in love and relationships, and in life as adults.
💕Video to follow on how to work on these issues, and more related to how we often use isolation - both passively and directly - in order to deal with our CPTSD childhoods, but also what we can do to heal and change these patterns.
❤️❤️Journal exercise for "HEALING SHAME IN CPTSD" to follow as well in next video!❤️❤️❤️
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