It can very difficult to build a healthy relationship with someone who’s highly avoidant.

For any healthy relationship to function, you need two people turning towards each other and working on the relationship.

Honest communication, authentic emotions, and vulnerability are the building blocks for a great relationship.

However, these are also terrifying for someone who has an avoidant attachment.

And when they’re exposed to them, they’ll get triggered, turn away and withdraw.

Just the thought of them withdrawing will cause you to second guess yourself, compensate, and change who you are.

You don’t want them to pull away so you’ll anything to prevent it, even at the expense of your own well-being.

So if you’re dating someone who’s highly avoidant, you’ll need patience and compassion.

But also, you’ll need compassion towards yourself.

Don’t fall into the trap of changing who you are and what you need out of the fear that they’ll withdraw.

Be kind to yourself 🙏🏻

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