Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT outlines the principles of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), including its three domains: attachment theory, arousal regulation, and developmental neuroscience.
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VIDEO TRANSCRIPT:
STAN: This is about memory systems, and if you want to create a bad memory in somebody that will last a long time, create a lot of intensity of the negative kind and then do nothing about it, don’t repair it, don’t fix it, don’t even mention it, that will go into long-term memory.
Now, I want to say something about this. Our brains have what’s called a negativity bias. This is from birth. Our brains will always go negative in the absence of signal or any other information coming in from the outside. Why? Why is this? Because we have many, many parts of our brain and nervous system that are devoted to survival. We have to know what to avoid. We have to know where to run or who to run away from in order to survive. So we tend to go negative if we are alone with our mind or if we’re with somebody and they’re not signaling to us, we will tend to assume the negative. Think of a shy person. Shy people are often pigeonholed as perhaps unfriendly or critical or judging or snooty, but they’re not. We’re just projecting onto them because they’re not giving us enough signal, and the negativity bias in our brain tends to assume the worse. That’s the negativity bias. So the reason we quickly repair injuries is because we don’t want to remember them. We don’t want to remember our mess-ups. We don’t want to remember what we did that was stupid. So in order to make sure that that doesn’t happen, the quicker people repair, the better off they are. The longer it takes for people to repair injuries, the more threatening the relationship becomes, and the more trouble there will be down the line.
